Today, I read this:  A Vision Test

This resonates with me.  I've heard it.  I think the people who say it are trying to be accepting and positive, without realizing that it's not.

Little girl - I see you.  I accept you.  I love you.  You will grow up knowing about your birth mother and father.  You will grow up knowing your culture.  You will grow up hearing Creole.  One day we'll take you back to Haiti

And you will grow up being loved.